When you stand at the alter with your beloved and say, "I do," you never really think about the possibility of divorce. Unfortunately, it does happen, and when it does, it's important to be prepared. With a divorce comes a whole slew of things that one must worry about, especially if you have children with your wife. Knowing how to prepare can help you protect yourself and your best interests.
Monetary Issues - One of the things you'll want to think about is your money. Most married couples have savings accounts, checking accounts, and other joint interests that will need to be taken care of. There's always the possibility that your wife could drain those accounts and since they're legally hers too, there's nothing you can do about it. This is something you should be aware of. Most likely, in divorce court, the judge will divide up these assets, so it's important to have documentation regarding all income and assets.
Custody Issues - A large portion of the time, divorces seque into child custody cases. Dads often become worried that they will not receive full custody of their children and they'll be stuck visiting them on weekends and holidays. If you do the majority of caretaking for your children, obtain proof. Write down the things you do for your kids; whether it's taking them to and from school and doctor's appointments, meeting with teachers and extracurricular activities, attending games, etc. In most cases, the primary caregiver - the person who does most for the children - will recieve full child custody. In some cases, parents will receive joint custody, which is the perfect way to go if it's possible in your case. Regardless, it's important to have this documentation.
Personal Steps - In a divorce, one or other of the couple will need to leave the house. If this will be you, you'll need to find a place to stay. It's important - if you're going to try for custody - that you remain close to the children. You'll also need to make sure you have a working vehicle and that you're able to get back and forth to work. The last thing you want is to risk losing your job and compounding your problems. A divorce is difficult, and it can push people to extreme circumstances. No matter what you do, try to remain calm and level-headed so you don't risk jeopardizing your case.
Legal - Finally, it's important to obtain legal counsel so that you can have your best interests protected and looked after. The chances of your wife obtaining legal counsel are excellent, and this isn't something you want to go into alone or without the benefit of an experienced lawyer. Many attorneys give free consultations, so you can use this to your advantage to find the attorney that's right for you. Being prepared for divorce can often mean you come through the other side more easily and in better shape.